How To HAve A Love Affair – Senior Living Insights

By Ruby MacDonald

Taking care of self is a natural outgrowth of self-love. Have a quiet love affair with yourself. – Dr. Wayne Dyer.

 

 

It’s that time of year again; let’s welcome December with gratitude for all the blessings that surround us. Every holiday season it has been my tradition to suggest that you give yourself a Christmas gift. That gift is to love yourself more. Self-love covers the oceans of your life and its effect excludes nothing in your own private world. It is priceless–yet costs nothing–except a decision. Our circumstances and age are not barriers. The only barrier is our own resistance.

 

There are many reasons why we don’t love ourselves properly. One is guilt from our past. We carry it around as though it were something to cherish; we talk about it, we think about it, and we put ourselves down for past mistakes. We can forgive others but not ourselves. We’ve all made mistakes; mistakes happen so that we can learn from them. They are not failures–they are simply tools for learning. They are forgivable. This season, forgive. Then the first beautiful gift you can unwrap for yourself is FORGIVENESS. Forgive yourself right now for everything that bothers you. Picture yourself as a beautiful new baby who has just entered the world with a life free of guilt and free of self-blame. LOVE YOURSELF. GOD LOVES YOU JUST AS YOU ARE.

 

The next gift to claim is a new way to look at illness and health. Dr. Wayne Dyer says that when you are told that you have a physical affliction you can either prepare to suffer or prepare to heal. Unfortunately, most of us open up our arms and receive the news as though it were what we’d been hoping for. After all, it does give us something new to talk and complain about. Dinner-table-talk. In addition, we usually take complete ownership of the diagnosis and immediately refer to it as “my” arthritis, or “my” heart condition, or “my cancer,” and we hold on like it is a precious gem. Then we worry about it developing into a worse condition, completely forgetting that, “We become what we think about all day long.”  We all know people who have been diagnosed with cancer and given a short time to live. And they live short. We also know of people who lived with cancer for years because they didn’t know they had an illness and were never given that life-sentence.

 

Many doctors don’t help us to think positively. Some love to tell us that arthritis will set in after a sprain, fall or break. They simply can’t say you’ve broken your arm and it will heal. No. Arthritis will set in. On a trip to Kauai sometime ago, I slipped on a slimy rock while exploring the beach and injured my wrist badly. I was told that I’d be getting arthritis.  If I had believed that, I’d have arthritis for certain.  When a doctor tells me that, I just look him in the eye and say, “Doc, I refuse to have arthritis.” They don’t hear comments like that very often and that renders them speechless–for a moment or two. My purpose certainly is not to put-down doctors, but rather to have you change the way you think about illness. When a medical expert tells us that we have a ”dis-ease,” the word means that our body is not at ease. It’s a warning. You can help put the “ease” or harmony back by focusing on the positives and believing that you possess the power/attitude to help heal yourself and that there is a spiritual solution to every problem.  You are never alone.

 

These are the easy steps to take: 1) Take control of your life.  Do not accept an illness with open arms;. 2) Refuse to give the illness permission to stay in your body. 3) Visualize your body as whole, as perfectly healthy. 4) Tell yourself several times a day that you have a healthy body. 5) Give gratitude for that body. 6) Do not think about or focus on the illness, 7) Do not talk about it, Do not reinforce it in any way. 9) Continue to follow your doctor’s orders and treat your illness as prescribed knowing that your body is healing. 10) Remember, thoughts are powerful. If you think you will not get well, you won’t. If you think you’ll heal, you will.

 

The best gift you can give yourself is a Love Affair. Make the decision to have a love affair with yourself, and then really fall in love with that magnificent spirit that lives inside your body.

 

May your cup of blessings truly runneth over.

Senior Living Insights

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