Assisted Living Solutions – Wayne Dyer “What Are You Creating Right Now?”

WHAT ARE YOU CREATING RIGHT NOW?

“You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions, and your intentions create your reality.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer

For years I’ve been fascination by the human brain and its vast potential. First from a psychological v.p. & now from a spiritual view point, not in the religious sense, but in the more mystical/creative realm. I’m convinced that our ability to create begins in our brain; God created us to create. Creation begins with one tiny thought. It may come from within you, or someone else, and once you accept it as yours and begin to think about it, you’ve started the process of creation. The more emotion you have with that thought the more powerful is your ability to attract what you want. Once your brain gets the go-ahead from you, it springs into action and clicks in to perform your command perfectly. That is why it’s extremely important to be aware of your own thoughts and the words you say. Your brain doesn’t sort out positive from the negative; it waits for your command. It simply acts on your thought.
I’ve spent half of my life learning about and teaching how powerful the brain is and how important our thoughts are. When I was a kid I used to hear my father speak of the dreaded “evil eye” in his native Sicily. I snickered and thought it was a bunch of nonsense even though the stories made the hair on the back of my neck stand at attention. I’ve since learned about the power of the mind and believe that if I told you that something terrible was going to happen to you, and you believed me, YOU could make it happen simply by the power/energy/focus you give it;  your own mind would work to carry out whatever you feared. 
        I believe that the power of the mind can also make us ill, or worse. One of my favorite examples of the power of suggestion is this one: During the winter months we are ambushed with news that the flu is epidemic. We’re sure we can’t escape it so we begin to worry. If we get the sniffles we’re certain we’ve got something that’s going around. We reinforce our fear by thinking that we have a cold, and we tell everyone who will listen. (It may have only been hay fever.) Next, we think we will be really sick, probably run a fever and by the end of the week we are certain we will be in bed vomiting or worse. Well, guess what? I believe that since we’ve programmed ourselves for a week full of illness— that is exactly what we will get. We’ve created it with our powerful minds. The brain has taken instructions and followed them exactly as we’ve prescribed it.
Arthritis is one of my pet peeves. If we break or sprain something doctors are quick to say arthritis will set in. My doc knows “I don’t do arthritis.” She snickers. I refer to it as the nasty “A” word. People take possession of arthritis as soon as they think they have it. I.E.: A younger friend’s fingers began aching; her mother had arthritis so she was certain she’d inherited it. (How many of us do that?) She took possession of it and referred to it as “my arthritis.”  We had a little discussion and it “amazingly” disappeared! I believe strongly that it isn’t necessary to talk about any symptom or medical sentence your doctor has decreed for you. To acknowledge it is to reinforce it. Taking possession of it and making it yours only gives it permission to proceed. Once we start talking about it to others, it grabs that energy/power to accelerate. That energy can better be used to create positive thoughts of healing for yourself. Get the needed treatment. Then if you must tell someone, say, “I’m catching healing,” and let it go. You can tell those symptoms that they are not welcome in your body and to flee. You must believe it, however, and you must be persistent, for the habit of illness is like a child who pushes the envelope to see if you mean business.. It’s up to you to stick in there and show the old habit who is boss. It takes a while to break old habits and patterns, so don’t expect the symptoms to disappear quickly. Like a spoiled child who is suddenly being disciplined, there will be rebellion within. Remember to put lots of emotion behind your thoughts of healing and be persistent.
We are never too old or too sick or too busy, to have creative minds. We “create” every second of every day and it is either negative or positive —depleting energy or increasing energy.
We deplete our energy if we focus on a negative situation, be it our own or someone else’s. Our energy level plummets and a cloud of doom and gloom cloaks us. When we change our thought pattern to those that are sunny, energy levels are elevated to a healthier state; we are less vulnerable to illness & to attracting negative thinking people into our lives.. Thoughts are contagious. Choose wisely.
 
“As you cannot have a sweet and wholesome abode unless you admit the air and sunshine freely into your rooms, so a strong body and a bright, happy, or serene countenance can only result from the free admittance into the mind of thoughts of joy and goodwill and serenity.”  — James Allen 1864-1912  (note the dates—this is not “new age” enlightenment, but time-proven.)

Assisted Living San Francisco Bay Area, Ca

The Chateau of Pleasant Hill, California is a senior living community that offers assisted living, Alzheimer’s care, dementia care, home care and a whole host of senior care services.

Ruby MacDonald writes a monthly column in the Senior Insights Newsletter and it has become a favorite amongst the elderly residents who say that Ruby’s positive words and inspirations make them feel wonderful.

Ruby’s word for the day:

EMPOWERED LIVING   by  Ruby MacDonald                                                     

HOW WELL ARE YOU . . .   HEARING ?                                                                                          

Empowered living includes the use of our very important five senses. “Hearing” is one of those senses. It’s one fifth. For those who cannot hear, one-fifth of their senses are impaired.
I do not take hearing for granted because my hearing became impaired around midlife. I speak from experience when I say that not being able to hear easily causes many problems and changes in lifestyle. For instance, do you hesitate answering the phone? Or do you only use the phone when it’s an absolute necessity? Has your social life receded and slowly turned you into an introvert? Do you stay away from social gatherings because you can’t hear in a crowd?

Rush Limbaugh, the nationally syndicated radio talk show host, experienced a rapid loss of hearing and within three months he was deaf in one ear and had an 80% loss in the other. He could no longer understand radio, TV, or the voices of call-in listeners. He has a severe bi-laterial sensorineural hearing loss due to an autoimmune inner ear disease. AIED causes less than 1% of all cases of sensorineural hearing loss; most cases are due to aging, noise exposure, or inherited hearing loss and develop very gradually. Most patients respond to early treatment of steroids and benefit from the use of hearing aids; some need cochlear implants.

Today there is little or no excuse for anyone to be hearing impaired even though statistics show that most people with  hearing loss do nothing about it! A healthy, positive approach is to take charge of your hearing healthcare and find a way to hear as well as possible again. Nothing can be done until you admit you have a hearing loss.

Which type are you?  Do you consider your hearing “good enough” to get by on?”  It doesn’t matter that you force everyone to repeat nearly everything they say? Or, do you want to hear as well as possible?  I hope you cherish the latter and want to enjoy hearing to the fullest.

Here are a few empowering secrets to hearing: Wear hearing aids in one or both ears. Lipreading is helpful as a third hearing aid. There are telephone and TV amplifiers. Ask people to look at you and speak more slowly. In a group, always sit by a wall to block sounds.

Find a good audiologist, one recommended by a friend rather than selected at random from the phone book. They will evaluate your hearing and hearing needs

Words Are The Most Powerful Thing In The Universe! – Senior Living Insights

Words are the most powerful thing in the universe.

Senior Living Insights By Ruby MacDonald
WORDS ARE POWERFUL. How we use them is most important. Positive words are powerful enough to bring healing. Negative words have the power to kill our spirit as illustrated in a newspaper article which clearly demonstrates how powerful and healing just a few simple words can be. After you’ve read this column perhaps, you’ll be moved to say some healing words to someone who waits, hoping to hear them.

Maybe you read the article in the Contra Costa Times on July 3, 2002; the headlines read: WOMAN RELIEVED TO HEAR SON’S KILLER APOLOGIZE. There was also a photo of Liz Kiepert—smiling!

You may remember back to 1998 when  an 11-year-old boy shot and killed Larry Kiepert, a 13 year old neighbor boy who was playing basketball in his own yard.  The eleven year old served four years for voluntary manslaughter.. This week when he attended his parole hearing, so did Liz Kiepert, the mother of the boy who was killed.

According to the news article written by Contra Costa Times Staff Writer, Celeste Ward,  Liz Kiepert  had suffered depression, anxiety, panic attacks and post-traumatic stress disorder after she watched her son be shot to death. She had said she wished the boy would have to serve the entire 14-year sentence and she did not understand how he could be rehabilitated when her family was still torn apart.

As the hearing date approached, Liz Kiepert wasn’t sure she wanted to be there. Two doctors had advised her against it but she needed to be there to vindicate her son. She went alone.  What occurred at the hearing is the best thing that could have happened, short of bringing her son back to life.

Moments before his release, the now 15 year-old boy had something to say. Liz says, “He turned around to face me and at first was mumbling. He said, ‘Mrs. Kiepert, if there was anything I could do differently, I would. I wish I could bring Larry back.’ Then he started to cry, and I asked the judge if I could hug him. That came out of my heart. When I saw him crying, I thought, ‘He’s a child.’ I hugged him 10 to 20 seconds and he kept whispering in my ear, ‘I’m so sorry.’  I told him Larry would forgive him, and to go make a good life for himself. I had the whole courtroom in tears.”

Liz Kiepert felt the years of bitterness and anger melt away as the judge released the boy. She said, “It was a relief. He said what I wanted to hear all these years. I felt like a weight was taken off my shoulders. Now I can go forward.” Liz Kiepert has returned to work after a long absence. A photo accompanying the newspaper article showed Liz smiling. Her family and friends said they noticed a difference in her in that the anguished look she had carried was gone. Finally, the weight had been lifted.

The weight of holding resentment and not being able to forgive is perhaps one of the most destructive emotions we can cling to. Even when we feel it is justified, the end result is the damage it does to our bodies and minds. We always have a choice, just as Liz Kiepert had. She chose to forgive and free both herself and the young man who still has a life to live.

WORDS. Just a few simple but meaningful words have put a smile back on Liz’s face and life back into her spirit.  As you’ve seen, words are powerful.

Reverse a stroke

STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters….S.T.R.

STROKE IDENTIFICATION
It only takes a minute to read this…

A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke…totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.

RECOGNIZING A STROKE

Remember the ‘3′ steps, STR . Read and Learn!

Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.

Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:

S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently) (i.e. It is sunny out today.)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.

If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.

New Sign of a Stroke ——– Stick out Your Tongue

NOTE: Another ’sign’ of a stroke is this: Ask the person to ’stick’ out his tongue.. If the tongue is ‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.

A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it on to others; lives will be saved.

What Are You Creating Right Now? – Assisted Living Insights

WHAT ARE YOU CREATING RIGHT NOW?

“You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions, and your intentions create your reality.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer

By Ruby MacDonald

For years I’ve been fascination by the human brain and its vast potential. First from a psychological v.p. & now from a spiritual view point, not in the religious sense, but in the more mystical/creative realm. I’m convinced that our ability to create begins in our brain; God created us to create. Creation begins with one tiny thought. It may come from within you, or someone else, and once you accept it as yours and begin to think about it, you’ve started the process of creation. The more emotion you have with that thought the more powerful is your ability to attract what you want. Once your brain gets the go-ahead from you, it springs into action and clicks in to perform your command perfectly. That is why it’s extremely important to be aware of your own thoughts and the words you say. Your brain doesn’t sort out positive from the negative; it waits for your command. It simply acts on your thought.
I’ve spent half of my life learning about and teaching how powerful the brain is and how important our thoughts are. When I was a kid I used to hear my father speak of the dreaded “evil eye” in his native Sicily. I snickered and thought it was a bunch of nonsense even though the stories made the hair on the back of my neck stand at attention. I’ve since learned about the power of the mind and believe that if I told you that something terrible was going to happen to you, and you believed me, YOU could make it happen simply by the power/energy/focus you give it; your own mind would work to carry out whatever you feared.
I believe that the power of the mind can also make us ill, or worse. One of my favorite examples of the power of suggestion is this one: During the winter months we are ambushed with news that the flu is epidemic. We’re sure we can’t escape it so we begin to worry. If we get the sniffles we’re certain we’ve got something that’s going around. We reinforce our fear by thinking that we have a cold, and we tell everyone who will listen. (It may have only been hay fever.) Next, we think we will be really sick, probably run a fever and by the end of the week we are certain we will be in bed vomiting or worse. Well, guess what? I believe that since we’ve programmed ourselves for a week full of illness— that is exactly what we will get. We’ve created it with our powerful minds. The brain has taken instructions and followed them exactly as we’ve prescribed it.
Arthritis is one of my pet peeves. If we break or sprain something doctors are quick to say arthritis will set in. My doc knows “I don’t do arthritis.” She snickers. I refer to it as the nasty “A” word. People take possession of arthritis as soon as they think they have it. I.E.: A younger friend’s fingers began aching; her mother had arthritis so she was certain she’d inherited it. (How many of us do that?) She took possession of it and referred to it as “my arthritis.” We had a little discussion and it “amazingly” disappeared! I believe strongly that it isn’t necessary to talk about any symptom or medical sentence your doctor has decreed for you. To acknowledge it is to reinforce it. Taking possession of it and making it yours only gives it permission to proceed. Once we start talking about it to others, it grabs that energy/power to accelerate. That energy can better be used to create positive thoughts of healing for yourself. Get the needed treatment. Then if you must tell someone, say, “I’m catching healing,” and let it go. You can tell those symptoms that they are not welcome in your body and to flee. You must believe it, however, and you must be persistent, for the habit of illness is like a child who pushes the envelope to see if you mean business.. It’s up to you to stick in there and show the old habit who is boss. It takes a while to break old habits and patterns, so don’t expect the symptoms to disappear quickly. Like a spoiled child who is suddenly being disciplined, there will be rebellion within. Remember to put lots of emotion behind your thoughts of healing and be persistent.
We are never too old or too sick or too busy, to have creative minds. We “create” every second of every day and it is either negative or positive —depleting energy or increasing energy.
We deplete our energy if we focus on a negative situation, be it our own or someone else’s. Our energy level plummets and a cloud of doom and gloom cloaks us. When we change our thought pattern to those that are sunny, energy levels are elevated to a healthier state; we are less vulnerable to illness & to attracting negative thinking people into our lives.. Thoughts are contagious. Choose wisely.

“As you cannot have a sweet and wholesome abode unless you admit the air and sunshine freely into your rooms, so a strong body and a bright, happy, or serene countenance can only result from the free admittance into the mind of thoughts of joy and goodwill and serenity.” — James Allen 1864-1912 (note the dates—this is not “new age” enlightenment, but time-proven.)

The Parable of the Trapeze – Senior Living Insights

Turning the Fear of Transformation into the Transformation of Fear
by Danaan Parry

Sometimes I feel that my life is a series of trapeze swings. I’m either
hanging on to a trapeze bar swinging along or, for a few moments in my
life, I’m hurtling across space in between trapeze bars.

Most of the time, I spend my life hanging on for dear life to my
trapeze-bar-of-the-moment. It carries me along at a certain steady rate of
swing and I have the feeling that I’m in control of my life.

I know most of the right questions and even some of the answers.

But every once in a while as I’m merrily (or even not-so-merrily) swinging
along, I look out ahead of me into the distance and what do I see? I see
another trapeze bar swinging toward me. It’s empty and I know, in that
place in me that knows, that this new trapeze bar has my name on it. It is
my next step, my growth, my aliveness coming to get me. In my heart of
hearts I know that, for me to grow, I must release my grip on this
present, well-known bar and move to the new one.

Each time it happens to me I hope (no, I pray) that I won’t have to let go
of my old bar completely before I grab the new one. But in my knowing
place, I know that I must totally release my grasp on my old bar and, for
some moment in time, I must hurtle across space before I can grab onto the
new bar.

Each time, I am filled with terror. It doesn’t matter that in all my
previous hurtles across the void of unknowing I have always made it. I am
each time afraid that I will miss, that I will be crushed on unseen rocks
in the bottomless chasm between bars. I do it anyway. Perhaps this is the
essence of what the mystics call the faith experience. No guarantees, no
net, no insurance policy, but you do it anyway because somehow to keep
hanging on to that old bar is no longer on the list of alternatives. So,
for an eternity that can last a microsecond or a thousand lifetimes, I
soar across the dark void of “the past is gone, the future is not yet
here.”

It’s called “transition.” I have come to believe that this transition is
the only place that real change occurs. I mean real change, not the
pseudo-change that only lasts until the next time my old buttons get
punched.

I have noticed that, in our culture, this transition zone is looked upon
as a “no-thing,” a noplace between places. Sure, the old trapeze bar was
real, and that new one coming towards me, I hope that’s real, too. But the
void in between? Is that just a scary, confusing, disorienting nowhere
that must be gotten through as fast and as unconsciously as possible?

NO! What a wasted opportunity that would be. I have a sneaking suspicion
that the transition zone is the only real thing and the bars are illusions
we dream up to avoid the void where the real change, the real growth,
occurs for us. Whether or not my hunch is true, it remains that the
transition zones in our lives are incredibly rich places. They should be
honored, even savored. Yes, with all the pain and fear and feelings of
being out of control that can (but not necessarily) accompany transitions,
they are still the most alive, most growth-filled, passionate, expansive
moments in our lives.

We cannot discover new oceans unless we have the courage to lose
sight of the shore. Anonymous

So, transformation of fear may have nothing to do with making fear go
away, but rather with giving ourselves permission to “hang out” in the
transition between trapezes. Transforming our need to grab that new bar,
any bar, is allowing ourselves to dwell in the only place where change
really happens. It can be terrifying. It can also be enlightening in the
true sense of the word. Hurtling through the void, we just may learn how
to fly.

Hand Me Down Rules – Senior Living Insights

HAND ME DOWN RULES

Emotional rules inherited without protest

By Ruby MacDonald – Senior Living Insights

Sometimes adult children look forward to the time when they will receive an inheritance, if they are fortunate enough to have wealthy parents or relatives. However, each of us has already received an inheritance such as all of the good traits we’ve been taught unhealthy habits, emotional traits, and unhealthy ways of handling unpleasant events in our lives. Many of us have embraced some or all of the emotional rules that we inherited without even a whimper of a protest even though they do not serve us well.

Most of us have lived with hand-me-down rules all of our lives. Some of them were passed on ever so innocently, from our parents. Some are so deeply ingrained that we haven’t bothered to question their validity. I like to use the old story of the ham that you may have heard a dozen times but I’ll personalize it to make it more interesting. Years ago when one of my young daughters saw me cutting off the ends of the ham before I baked it, she wanted to know why I did that. My reply was because my mother had. But my young inquisitive child wanted to know “why” Grandma did it. When we asked her grandmother, she roared with laughter and then replied, “Well, I haven’t a clue as to why you do; I never had a pan large enough for the whole ham so I had to cut off the ends.” While this story has nothing to do with fear, it points out that we fail to seek out the “why’s” of what we do and then decide if those reasons have validity in our world and if they are enriching our lives.

How many of us still operate by obsolete rules that were learned from parents, teachers, and/or society?

A Love Letter – Senior Living

A LOVE LETTER

 

By Ruby MacDonald – Senior Living Insights

Hello. How are you?

 

I just had to send you this letter to tell you how much I love you and care about you. I saw you yesterday as you were walking with your friends. I waited all day, hoping you would walk and talk with me also. As evening drew near, I gave you a sunset to close your day, and a cool breeze to rest you. Then I waited, but you never came. O yes, it hurt me, but I still love you because I am your friend.

 

I saw you fall asleep last night, and I longed to touch your brow, so I spilled moonlight upon your pillow and your face…Again, I waited, wanting to rush down so we could talk. I have so many gifts for you.

 

You awakened late this morning and rushed off for the day. My tears were in the rain. Today you looked so sad, so alone. It makes my heart ache because I understand. My friends let me down and hurt me many times, but I love you. I try to tell you in the quiet green grass. I whisper it in the leaves and trees, and breathe it in the color of the flowers. I shout it to you in the mountain streams, and give the birds love songs to sing. I clothe you with warm sunshine and perfume the air. My love for you is deeper than the oceans and bigger than the biggest want or need you could ever have.

 

We will spend eternity together in heaven. I know how hard it is on earth. I really know, because I was there, and I want to help you. My Father wants to help you, too. He’s that way, you know. Just call me, ask me, talk to me. It is your decision . . .

 

 I have chosen you, and because of this I will wait  . . . 

Because I love you.

 

Your friend, ___________________(please insert the deity of your choice)

 

This writing by Harry D. Cup of Orland, Fl., was found in the Bible of Tom MacDonald’s mother, Carolyn, who some of you may remember when she lived at Chateau I.

THAT NASTY FOUR LETTER WORD – Senior Living Insights

THAT NASTY FOUR LETTER WORD

 

Yes, I’m writing about the “F” word.

This “F” word is – F-E-A-R, one of the most crippling of the four letter words. We all have some. FEAR directs our lives with enough strength and power to keep us confined within the steel cell of our minds. A prisoner of “fear.”  If you doubt it, take time to honestly examine your own fears to see how they have kept you in bondage. How have they denied you some of the joys of life? What have you always wanted to do but didn’t because of fear?

Some of us have worked hard to remove one steel bar at a time. Others tend to be content within their prisons. Few if any of us live within the freedoms that are ours simply for the taking.   The unfortunate thing about fear is that not only does it deny us the freedom to live; it is consciously or unconsciously passed on from one generation to the next.

My own mother had far too many fears that she passed on to her four daughters. She was fearful of the water and didn’t want us to drown. She was fearful of bikes and skates, so we were “saved” from falling down and bruising ourselves. The dark. What people would say if….And the list could go on and on.

As many of you know, Tom and I spend as much time on the water as possible. Vacation destinations are mostly to the ocean. And boating is a top priority. But I don’t know how to swim so I play it safe and cautiously while others are in the warm tropical water snorkeling or swimming to cool off. The turning point for me was a recent incident where we were in a water taxi going from one small island to the main one. I usually wear a lifejacket, but our luggage had already been stacked forward and the lifejackets were all beyond reach in the nose of the bow. After our group of six boarded, several islanders came aboard making far too many people for such a narrow wooden boat. The half hour ride was riddled with fear as each of us knew that it would not take much to tip the boat. I realized then how unfair it was that I could not swim and others would have the responsibility of saving me, in addition to themselves, if we’d capsized. The only way to conquer fear is to face it, and so I’m taking swim lessons. And so, “You can teach an old dog new tricks!”  So don’t you dare use “age” as an excuse.

My fellow-writer, Marion Duckworth said, “Isn’t it interesting that you are doing so well so quickly and fear kept you from learning to swim. A message for all of us.”

            The point is, that for many of us, life is quickly fleeting by and we are missing out on living life to the fullest because of our fears. Now, while the clock still clicks, it is a good time to do something that your fears have stolen from you..  The four letter word can be turned into a five letter word: FAITH in yourself and your ability to CHANGE. One of the best ways to initiate a change is to state what your intention is for that fear. Intention is just another way of saying that we can create what we think about. Our first thought becomes an “intention” about a specific fear, emotion or attitude.

In a new movie, “What the Bleep! Do We Know!?,  which is sweeping the country,  Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “I wake up in the morning, and I consciously create my day the way I want it to happen. Now, sometimes, because my mind is examining all the things that I need to get done, it takes me a little bit to settle down, and get to the point of where I’m actually intentionally creating my day. But here’s the thing. When I create my day, … out of nowhere, little things happen that are so unexplainable; I know they are the process or the result of my creation. And the more I do that, the more I build a neural net in my brain, (and I can) accept that that’s possible. It gives me the power and the incentive to do it…”   (This amazing movie will be shown in Walnut Creek on August 13, 04.)

I’ve written about the power of intention before but it is so powerful and I’m so excited about the possibilities that you’ll just have to bear with me because I really want you to get the concept. It’s so simple that it would be easy to think it doesn’t matter. But it does. Here is how to make it work for you:

·         Break your day into segment. A segment begins the moment you wake up and have a first thought.

·         Now direct that thought into an intention. Send out the thought of what kind of day you’d like to have. Perhaps you felt grumpy, or not as well as you’d like to feel. The thought you’d send out is for health and joy and you would concentrate on those.

·         The next thing you do becomes a segment, and so on all through the day. Before you begin each segment, direct your thoughts towards a positive, joyful outcome.

·         Now you are in control of your thoughts, your day, and your life. You will feel more in control instead of out of control.

·         Believe!  (FAITH REPLACES FEAR)

Had Tom and I and our group taken control of the segment before we stepped into that island boat in Tonga, directing it to safety, we would have spoken to the captain about the vessel being overloaded and asked the islanders to wait for the next boat taxi since we had a plane to catch that morning and needed to get to shore. And we would have made sure that we had easy access to the life jackets and I would have been wearing one. In other words, having a clear intention as we go through the day, assures us less stress and gives us more of what we really want.  It gives us control over our fears and allows us to create a positive outcome.  So—NEVER AGAIN AVOID THE FOUR LETTER WORD, “FEAR.”

 

 

 

How To HAve A Love Affair – Senior Living Insights

By Ruby MacDonald

Taking care of self is a natural outgrowth of self-love. Have a quiet love affair with yourself. – Dr. Wayne Dyer.

 

 

It’s that time of year again; let’s welcome December with gratitude for all the blessings that surround us. Every holiday season it has been my tradition to suggest that you give yourself a Christmas gift. That gift is to love yourself more. Self-love covers the oceans of your life and its effect excludes nothing in your own private world. It is priceless–yet costs nothing–except a decision. Our circumstances and age are not barriers. The only barrier is our own resistance.

 

There are many reasons why we don’t love ourselves properly. One is guilt from our past. We carry it around as though it were something to cherish; we talk about it, we think about it, and we put ourselves down for past mistakes. We can forgive others but not ourselves. We’ve all made mistakes; mistakes happen so that we can learn from them. They are not failures–they are simply tools for learning. They are forgivable. This season, forgive. Then the first beautiful gift you can unwrap for yourself is FORGIVENESS. Forgive yourself right now for everything that bothers you. Picture yourself as a beautiful new baby who has just entered the world with a life free of guilt and free of self-blame. LOVE YOURSELF. GOD LOVES YOU JUST AS YOU ARE.

 

The next gift to claim is a new way to look at illness and health. Dr. Wayne Dyer says that when you are told that you have a physical affliction you can either prepare to suffer or prepare to heal. Unfortunately, most of us open up our arms and receive the news as though it were what we’d been hoping for. After all, it does give us something new to talk and complain about. Dinner-table-talk. In addition, we usually take complete ownership of the diagnosis and immediately refer to it as “my” arthritis, or “my” heart condition, or “my cancer,” and we hold on like it is a precious gem. Then we worry about it developing into a worse condition, completely forgetting that, “We become what we think about all day long.”  We all know people who have been diagnosed with cancer and given a short time to live. And they live short. We also know of people who lived with cancer for years because they didn’t know they had an illness and were never given that life-sentence.

 

Many doctors don’t help us to think positively. Some love to tell us that arthritis will set in after a sprain, fall or break. They simply can’t say you’ve broken your arm and it will heal. No. Arthritis will set in. On a trip to Kauai sometime ago, I slipped on a slimy rock while exploring the beach and injured my wrist badly. I was told that I’d be getting arthritis.  If I had believed that, I’d have arthritis for certain.  When a doctor tells me that, I just look him in the eye and say, “Doc, I refuse to have arthritis.” They don’t hear comments like that very often and that renders them speechless–for a moment or two. My purpose certainly is not to put-down doctors, but rather to have you change the way you think about illness. When a medical expert tells us that we have a ”dis-ease,” the word means that our body is not at ease. It’s a warning. You can help put the “ease” or harmony back by focusing on the positives and believing that you possess the power/attitude to help heal yourself and that there is a spiritual solution to every problem.  You are never alone.

 

These are the easy steps to take: 1) Take control of your life.  Do not accept an illness with open arms;. 2) Refuse to give the illness permission to stay in your body. 3) Visualize your body as whole, as perfectly healthy. 4) Tell yourself several times a day that you have a healthy body. 5) Give gratitude for that body. 6) Do not think about or focus on the illness, 7) Do not talk about it, Do not reinforce it in any way. 9) Continue to follow your doctor’s orders and treat your illness as prescribed knowing that your body is healing. 10) Remember, thoughts are powerful. If you think you will not get well, you won’t. If you think you’ll heal, you will.

 

The best gift you can give yourself is a Love Affair. Make the decision to have a love affair with yourself, and then really fall in love with that magnificent spirit that lives inside your body.

 

May your cup of blessings truly runneth over.

Senior Living Insights

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